The emotional love language that you speak with your spouse can be as different as speaking Chinese and English to each other.
You must love your spouse in their love language, not yours. We tend to express love in our own languages and not our loved ones.
We cry out for emotional love. Isolation is devastating.
Once the marriage and honeymoon period is over, you have to learn to love your partner without that euphoric feeling.
The Five Love Languages:
- Words of Affirmation
Verbal compliments are extremely powerful love languages.
Encouraging words are another way to affirm your spouse.
Using kind words can be a genuine expression of love.
Make requests for acts, not demands.
- Write love letters, complement your spouse every 2 to 3 days, and send them text messages
- Complement your spouse in the presence of loved ones and their friends. You’ll get double credit
- Tell your children how great their mother/father is behind her back.
2. Quality Time
Give your spouse your undivided attention.
It means sitting on the couch and talking with each other with the TV off.
It really doesn’t matter what type of activity the two of you engage in, is that the activity presents and represents togetherness.
Practice sympathetic listening and focus on your spouse’s thoughts feelings and desires.
It’s also important to understand each other’s feelings, and not just their thoughts on certain matters.
What thing in your marriage detracts from quality time?
3. Gift Giving
We give each other rings as a sign of our love for each other.
If your spouse likes receiving gifts, then gift-giving is one of the easiest love languages to learn.
Physical presence can be the greatest gift that a spouse in yet in times of crisis.
- Make a gift notebook. When your spouse says they like something, make a mental note of that.
4. Acts of Service
Helping out around the house and doing chores is a way for people to show love for their spouses.
5. Physical Touch
Kissing, hugging, holding, and sexual intercourse or hallways of sharing your love see a physical touch.
The female’s emotions play a big factor in whether a woman wants to be sexually physical.
If you meet the emotional love language of your spouse, they will continue to feel loved. Their confidence and the emotional tank will be full.
One of the big reasons why men and women cheat on their spouses is because their emotional love tank is empty.